New Year’s resolutions for moms are really a crock of sh!t. I don’t know how many countless times I have made News Year’s resolutions. I was going to eat better, turn into Jillian Michaels and be the CEO of a Fortune 500 company in 2 months (yeah right). I would usually completely fail/give up within a week (don’t judge me lol).
SO this year I am taking a different approach and let me tell you not only is it a breath of fresh air but has helped me to be such a better mom! Here are my 11 shockingly easy no-fail New Year’s resolutions for moms that really YOU CAN START ANY TIME OF THE YEAR!
1. PUT YOUR FAMILY FIRST
I am SO GUILTY of putting my career and family on equal pedestals (with the career slightly edging the family out). This year I am putting my family first. I am leaving work on time to eat dinner with my family and leaving work at work. No work phone, no work emails, and nothing else related to work (I am talking to you laptop in the corner)! I am saying YES to more family vacations and family activities. I can already see the difference in my kiddos with the much-needed attention I am giving them.
2. STOPING MOM GUILT
I will never forget Valentine’s Day of last year. I show up to drop my kiddo off at school with store-bought Valentine’s Day cards (that we literally picked up on the way there). Right on time here come PTO mom Karen with her amazingness. I kid you not she shows up with homemade juice/candy/god knows what robots for each kid (yeah 20 of those suckers). Want to feel like a failure? Look up how to make them on Pinterest. I literally felt SO GUILTY like I failed my kid the entire day at work.
When I got home guess what? My daughter was so excited that everyone LOVED her Valentine’s Cards with temporary tattoos (including her who picked them out lol, I should have realized that). She did not notice that mom made a homemade robot monstrosity for the class.
I WAS THE ONLY ONE MAKING MYSELF FEEL LIKE A FAILURE.
So mama give yourself credit where credit is due. At least I didn’t forget the cards all together so that my friends is #winning
Also side note: WHO CARES if you yell at your kids (they probably deserved it) or that they eat cookies for breakfast (you’re feeding them) so cut yourself some slack you are doing AMAZING!
3. SELF CARE IS A MUST
I am such a better mom when I take care of myself. Whether that be a nice bubble bath, a short retail therapy session or just locking the damn bathroom door when I pee. So take time for you. You cannot pour from an empty cup!
One of my fave guilty pleasures, since you know us mamas don’t have the time or money to go to the spa (am I right or am I right) is putting my tired feet up, drinking a coffee and relaxing with this miracle face mask a couple times a week. It’s the ultimate excuse to pamper myself and my complexion from the comforts of home!
4. NO MEANS NO
You can’t do everything. You cannot make a million cookies the night before PTO no matter what someone tries to guilt you into it. It’s not realistic or fair to you! You cannot do last minute stuff for work or just run yourself ragged. NO MEANS NO so when you say it mean it and don’t back down!
People have probably gotten used to waiting until the last minute to ask you to do something. If you put your foot down they will stop taking advantage of you and your time. I am a YES person by nature I never want to disappoint anyone so this has been the hardest one for me but I am working on it.
5. BUT SAY YES TO SOMETHING NEW
Say yes to even one new thing this year. Try a new recipe, take that yoga class you have always wanted to try or just taking a DAMN break, or just cutting yourself some SLACK.
Take up a new hobby (I highly recommend couponing and I will be posting how to get started very soon! Your hubby will ENCOURAGE you to keep shopping when he sees how much money you are saving the family #ohyeah).
This year I am learning how to blog. It’s been a lot of fun and has taught me I am capable of so much more than I give myself credit for.
Remember you only live once and never know what you might discover about yourself.
6. ASK FOR HELP
I HATE asking for help. Not asking for help when I really need it usually builds up at home or work until I am so overwhelmed. I then blow up over the dumbest thing and hurt people. Not healthy at all. Ask for help on that next project at work or some direction if you’re stuck. Ask the hubby to help you fold laundry or watch the kids so you don’t lose it. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak it actually makes you very strong.
7. APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE
It’s hard to appreciate what you have when your kids are fighting to the death, dinner sucks and the dog pooped on the floor but you know what? Some people dream of having babies they can’t have, a nice warm house and a hot meal.
Your job? Those are hard to come; especially ones you love (well most of the time) so appreciate it. A significant other and family to share all these “blessings in disguise” with? Priceless!
8. PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN
Stop being a PHONE ZOMBIE. I don’t know how many times my kiddo asked me to watch something or asked for help while I zoned out on Facebook, watching a stupid video or checking that one last work email (that turned into a rabbit hole of an hour). Seriously unplug even if you can only commit to an hour and hang out with the fam.
9. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
That mom bod rocks! No one cares if you can’t fit in your old pants or aren’t taking your family on amazing vacations. WHO CARES if you don’t live in the nicest house on the block. Worry about your own family and stop comparing yourself to others. Guarantee if you ask your kids right now they will tell you that YOU are the best mom ever and they love everything you have given them (well unless they are teenagers but that’s a whole different animal).
10. LET ALL NEGATIVE THINGS GO
In the words of Elsa (can you tell I am a girl mom hehe) LET IT GO! Get over the fight with your husband (your right anyway right?) Coworker throw you under the bus (they must have a pretty crappy life to try and make others look bad) so forget about it. Didn’t get your dream job or the raise? It wasn’t meant to be. Drop the negative in your life (even if it’s family, friends, or just a toxic relationship). Life is too short to hold on to the bad stuff.
LAST BUT NOT LEAST NO FAIL #11 . . .
Love your babies with all your heart. Just keep them alive another year and TRY to not sell them to the circus (even though you want to!)
Mama, you have been doing a bang-up job remember that. I encourage you to make some amazing no-fail resolutions (or take heart to the ones above) and see how much those little resolutions benefit you and your family!
XOXO – Kindra